Islamic Family Guidelines
All praise is truly due to Allaah, the Almighty. We all praise Him, seek His help, and ask His Forgiveness. We seek refuge with Him from the evil of our souls, and from our sinful deeds. He whom Allaah guides, no one can misguide him and whoever Allaah misguides, no one can guide him. I bear witness that there is no deity worthy of worship, but Allaah, The Almighty alone, and I bear witness openly that Mohammed(), is truly His slave (servant) and Messenger.
“O ye who believe! fear Allaah as He should be feared, and die not except in a state of Islaam.”
“O mankind! reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single Person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women; fear Allaah, through Whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (that bore you): for Allaah ever watches over you.”
“O ye who believe! fear Allaah, and (always) say a word directed to the Right: That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: he that obeys Allaah and His Messenger, has already attained the highest Achievement.”
‘THE FAMILY’ is a title inspired by verse 6 of Surah at-TAHREEM.
{ يَاأَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَّقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ }
“ O ye who believe! protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones ”
In this verse Allaah orders us to protect ourselves and our families from the Hell- Fire. Though this Surah deals with the personal life of the Last Messenger of Allaah () and his righteous wives, but its sixth verse is rather general in its meaning. All of us being responsible for our families, have to do our best to protect them from the Hell-Fire. The Fire which will have as its fuel human beings and stones. The word ‘stone’ does not just apply to rocks, but also to all non-living things which caused people’s deviation from the straight path. What is meant here is the material wealth that the people run after and materials that waste away one’s precious time (which include music and other haraam forms of passtimes ). These make the people careless about the real purpose of creation and as such are doomed to the fire of Hell.
Therefore, I decided to write a short book, which covers most of the social issues related to parents, husbands, wives and children. It is therefore a very beneficial book for all members of the family. It has lessons for the Allaah-fearing men and women who want to start their family lives. It has lessons for the family, which has already developed as a basic unit of the society. It has the lessons for the parents and their children. Therefore, I have divided it into four parts:-
(1) How can an ‘Islaamic Family’ guided by the Light of the Book of Allaah and the ideal example of the Messenger of Allaah () i.e.Hadeeth,be established.
(2) The rights which the husband and wife owe to one another.
(3) The responsibilties of the Parents towards their children.
(4) The responsibilties of the children towards their parents.
List of Contents
How can ‘An Ideal Muslim Family’ be established 7
The Du’aa for a righteous spouse 8
The Purpose of Marriage 9
The Mutual rights of the Husband and Wife 11
The Role of the Husband 12
The Wife’s Role 12
The Husband’s Duties Towards His Wife 12
Reward for loyal women:- 15
The Prophet’s advice on kind treatment of wives 15
The man’s duties towards his wife and children 16
The purpose of having sexual intercourse 17
PARENTS DUTIES TOWARDS THEIR CHILDREN 20
Saying of the Adhaan (in the ears of a new-born child) 20
Tahneek 21
Aqeeqah 21
Tasmiya 23
Some good names 24
Some bad names 25
Al-Khitaan:-Is it compulsory or not ? 26
The two opinions on the issue of al-Khitaan 27
CIRCUMCISION OF GIRLS 28
Religious upbringing and teaching 29
Teaching your child good manners 33
What should the child first utter from his mouth: 33
The etiquette of eating 34
Teaching the correct Sunnah of worship 34
Training for Fasting 35
Learning of Qur’aan 36
Manners to sleep 36
Kind and Fair treatment of daughters 36
Treating all the children equally 38
The Responsibility of marring the children 39
CHILDREN’S DUTIES TOWARDS THEIR PARENTS...................................
Some Photo of the Book
